A few weeks ago I ran a webinar on 'How to be assertive without appearing aggressive', and had some great feedback. I thought I'd share my top tips with you.
Assertiveness is: the ability to say what you think or feel, or to say what you need, while respecting yourself and respecting the other person.
This is the co-operative approach, looking for a win- win situation
My Top Tips:
ü Remember you have a choice
Once upon a time there was a group of frogs who decided to hold a climbing competition.
The goal was to reach the top of the Eiffel Tower. A huge crowd gathered to watch the contest and cheer on the frogs. When the race began, everyone started shouting words of encouragement.
The answer of course is yes, because we all have a reputation. But are you being noticed for the right reasons?
Your reputation is the opinion someone has of you because of what you do, and importantly, how you do it. We're talking about your personal impact, your personal PR.
Are you known as someone who goes the extra mile, asks great questions and takes an interest in others? Or are you known as being negative, complaining about others behind their backs, [...]
"When I get the feeling to do something, I lie down until the feeling goes away"
We’re all guilty of it, and know we’re doing it, so just why do we put things off? When you finally decide to start that project you know has to be done, tidying up your desk, or making a coffee suddenly become quite appealing.
There are many reasons why we delay doing the important but not urgent stuff:
The project is so big you don’t know where [...]
We make decisions every day. What to wear, which route to take, how to spend our money. The smaller decisions are relatively easy because you can probably cope with the result of making the wrong decision. But what about the bigger decisions?
What stops us from making decisions? In most cases it’s the fear of getting it wrong.
How long is your To Do list today? Is it longer or shorter than yesterday? Do you have items on it that have been there for more than a week? A month? Or longer??
To Do lists are a great way of getting things done, as long as you are prioritising and completing tasks, and making sure you tackle the Important as well as the Urgent.
How do you choose which task to complete next on your list? The easiest? The quickest? [...]
Have you set your goals yet for this year?
Would you like to make them more compelling, more realistic, achievable and motivating?
If the answer is a resounding YES, apply these nine questions/conditions to each of your desired outcomes. They are called ‘Well formed conditions’ based on NLP principles and will transform the way you feel and approach your goals.
1. State your outcome in the positive – what do you want? (rather than what you DON’T want)
2. How will you know when you have [...]
This morning I ran a networking workshop helping business owners to focus on their sales & marketing.
Part of the session was exploring what delegates find most challenging about marketing, and for most of the people in the room, the key challenges in a nutshell are: There's too much to do, not sure what to do first, and not enough time to do it all!
If your To Do list is never ending, and some items never seem to disappear, then drastic [...]
•Whose fault is it that you don’t have enough clients?
•Whose fault is it that you’re chasing your tail but not achieving anything?
•Whose fault is it that you have stopped enjoying running your own business?
The answer, if you haven’t already guessed, is looking back at you in the mirror – you.
If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for what you are experiencing in your life
As a business owner or business leader, wouldn’t your life be easier – and your company more successful – if your staff were as motivated as you, performing to the highest level, always prepared to go the extra mile and committed to your organisation?
If this describes your work force, then you already have good employee engagement, and yet a recent report commissioned by the Department for Business, Innovation and Skills, found that only a third of UK employees are actively [...]
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